tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302245627574027504.post1038146477945268904..comments2019-05-15T23:59:20.159-07:00Comments on Feminist Legal Theory: The real consequences of the “second shift.” Lisa R. Pruitthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16469550950363542801noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302245627574027504.post-55142497539457528062015-04-29T11:32:54.499-07:002015-04-29T11:32:54.499-07:00When my mother needed help to prepare some events ...When my mother needed help to prepare some events at home, she never asked any of us. She was still complaining though. I understood that was a way for her to ask for help, so I helped her. But my brothers never helped her. I don’t know why I did it and not them. Was it because I was conditioned by society (so I felt concerned) or was it due to my personality, allowing me to understand my mother’s feelings and the unfairness of the situation? <br />In the past, my mother never asked for help from neither my brothers nor me. She did it wrong, but at least she did not treat my brothers and me differently because of gender bias. As a result, my brothers became the prototype of the guys who will participate in chores, but only if their partner asks for it. They will rarely do something from their own initiative.<br />So, I agree with Heather. For sure, my mother should have asked for help. And more, as a parent, she should have attributed tasks to all of us by distributing them equally.<br />VKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01481386997813530767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302245627574027504.post-32266588008116970832015-04-23T14:32:03.467-07:002015-04-23T14:32:03.467-07:00This is not going to be a popular statement, but I...This is not going to be a popular statement, but I think women need to take some responsibility for shifting this burden. I agree completely that women still do most of the home labor, even when they work, and that is a problem. However, I believe part of the issue is that a clean house is more important to women than men. I know my partner just doesn't notice the dust and the dirty carpet. It does not bother him like it bothers me. As a result, I find myself attending to it the majority of the time. However, my partner is more than happy to do his fair share if I ask. The problem is I rarely do. It has been suggested that perhaps the problem is that women are reluctant to ask for help. Women need to shift their mindsets that the burden lies on them to do all the work. Women need to speak up and ask for help. Now whether they should have to do that is another question. We would all like men who volunteer to clean the house and pack the children’s lunches without being asked. Perhaps in time that will come, after we start speaking up and asking for help. Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14807854935009371794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302245627574027504.post-30809164618030712152015-04-22T11:06:00.630-07:002015-04-22T11:06:00.630-07:00To the extent our society's expectations have ...To the extent our society's expectations have gradually/incrementally shifted away from seeing housework as "woman's work," I think we've made some progress. But we are certainly still a long ways from achieving anything close to gender parity there.<br /><br />I'm sure there must be some studies that show how the division of labor/responsibilities in a household affect a child's perception of gender. The expectations in our subconscious are really difficult to talk ourselves out of having, even if we know better, intellectually. And I think this is a key battleground for feminism that might not be talked about nearly enough. Especially if we want to raise a generation that is truly receptive to the message of feminism. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09354780104849024443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302245627574027504.post-35956720970074571152015-04-21T14:41:09.135-07:002015-04-21T14:41:09.135-07:00I think the criticism part bothers me greatly (esp...I think the criticism part bothers me greatly (especially when the partner is not doing nearly as much), and it can begin making women feel like they are not good enough or not keeping up with some national standard for housekeeping, so then they try harder. Now we have high expectations for women to do all of this housework. I hope we can begin to see what an unfair burden this is to women, and not have these expectations. Jessica S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13966553584000077340noreply@blogger.com