tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302245627574027504.post3173765086049539631..comments2019-05-15T23:59:20.159-07:00Comments on Feminist Legal Theory: What ever happened to the gentleman?Lisa R. Pruitthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16469550950363542801noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302245627574027504.post-75395736381693011952010-09-24T01:31:38.130-07:002010-09-24T01:31:38.130-07:00What happened to good manners? Nothing at all! The...What happened to good manners? Nothing at all! The question is what happened to us? I suppose we could point a finger of blame to the absence of the traditional family, or values that used to be taught by both parents that seem to have become extinct. As a kid, I remember a lot of importance being placed on good manners. People seem to have less time to be courteous, and more time to be cut throat. Perhaps the seriousness of the economic down turn has people on edge, but that certainly can’t be the entire reason, can it? Maybe we just have a lack of affection for our fellowman. But it is clear to me having been courted in the 70’s, married in the 80’s, divorced in the late 80’s and courted again in the 90’s that the art of being a gentleman fell by the wayside and manners went from bad to worse.<br /><br />Displaying good manners should NOT have to be something forced on you to do. I was always taught by my parents to respect those older than you, to say thank you and to be courteous to others, sadly with each new generation this is quickly fading away. I know that I felt part of my duty to my son was to raise him to be courteous and to be a gentleman. Somewhere out there someone is dropping the ball, and forgetting simple human values. I am going to be bold and say that it is a momma problem. However, before we throw in the towel and declare gentlemen an extinct species of man, I would also say that ladies must do their part as well. If we are to expect a "civil society" we must teach our boyfriends and husbands, partners and lovers and our children to take two seconds of precious time to start a conversation with a friendly greeting. Perhaps by example to ask excuse me when others are talking before just jumping into a conversation. We could communicate our desire to have a door opened or a chair pulled out. After all it's only "good manners." The real question is why don’t we?Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15633194533296357627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302245627574027504.post-67696419992189333102010-09-23T18:18:44.664-07:002010-09-23T18:18:44.664-07:00I agree with the previous post. Manners have becom...I agree with the previous post. Manners have become passe and less important in our daily lives. Which is interesting, because I feel like have manners and being polite never really is that difficult.<br /><br />I often find that when a man opens a door for me, I can't figure out whether to say thank you or feel like there was no need for him to open it for me in the first place. I feel like many men - on the basis of the fact that they view feminism incorrectly - believe that opening a door for a woman is offense or that she would find it offense. In fact, I have heard a man make this justification when I asked him why he didn't open a door for me. This is impermissible, because ultimately it's manners. It isn't about who is weak or who is strong - or who dominates. All it simply does is give the other person a sense that they matter.N.P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08296347844003958446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302245627574027504.post-2918161458858376962010-09-21T19:55:47.637-07:002010-09-21T19:55:47.637-07:00Honestly, I think manners in general are just disa...Honestly, I think manners in general are just disappearing in our society. I agree with the quote from your post about holding the door open for anyone- male or female, 4 or 40. I feel like letting the door slam in someone's face is just plain rude no matter who it is! I think the focus should be on everyone, not just men, trying to be more sensitive and considerate of other people. <br /><br />Everyone is always rushing to work, school, family events, etc. and often their impatience leads to lack of consideration for others in public spaces. We should all focus on just being nicer to each other - on the freeway, in the grocery store line, holding a door open, etc. At the risk of sounding like a hippie, the world would be a better place :)2ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05870959619819040005noreply@blogger.com