tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302245627574027504.post735653845187921771..comments2019-05-15T23:59:20.159-07:00Comments on Feminist Legal Theory: Ode to a Single Father Lisa R. Pruitthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16469550950363542801noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302245627574027504.post-83265064269511673142019-03-20T13:33:51.137-07:002019-03-20T13:33:51.137-07:00Joan,
Thank you for sharing this with us. It'...Joan,<br /><br />Thank you for sharing this with us. It's a perspective (those raised by single fathers) that gets overlooked and we need it voiced here on the blog. It's so lovely that your father stepped up to the plate as a single parent, so much that traditional gender norms weren't a part of your upbringing. I admire that and can relate to a certain extent since my father never re-married after my parents' separation. As a child, I also experienced my father's homemade dinners after work and interesting hairstyles for school picture day. My dad also tried, but for me, it never felt quite the same way as when mom would do those things. However, I never admitted it to my father in fear of making him feel unappreciated. <br /><br />You sort of touched on this, but I wonder if your father was able to be there emotionally for you in the ways that women are often expected to take on the emotional labor. Did he talk to you about dating, intimacy, body development, etc.? Was he there for you after the heart breaks? Personally, I don't think my dad knew how to address those things so it went unspoken in my household, but I'm interested to see how other fathers deal with these common issues. Nonetheless, your father obviously did a fantastic job and I'm sure he's just as proud of you as you are of him.Nicolettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00061080481323677985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302245627574027504.post-47709985400770520142019-03-06T13:07:57.646-08:002019-03-06T13:07:57.646-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Nicolettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00061080481323677985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302245627574027504.post-5433944552168478122016-10-10T22:07:57.334-07:002016-10-10T22:07:57.334-07:00Joan, thank you for this powerful post. Your Fathe...Joan, thank you for this powerful post. Your Father is an extremely inspiring male figure, one who all men should strive to be should they become parents in their lifetime. <br />Your heartfelt praise got me thinking of my own Father back in Ireland. I am very privileged to have been reared in a family with two parents whose marriage has remained as strong as ever after thirty one years. Both my Mother and my Father have contributed equally to my upbringing, but both in very different ways.<br />My Father has a unique understanding of human nature and was able to identify with the emotions of a young pre-pubescent Louise. My Father was the one I would turn to if a teacher was ever mean to me at school or if I felt uncomfortable in my skin. <br />My Mother is more in to the tough-love approach. She taught me to be resilient and to not settle for less than what I am capable of. My Mother is the one I seek advice from when I am stressed with college work or feeling like I am not reaching my full potential. <br />While I can't directly relate with your empowering childhood, I can empathise with your experience of having a maternal Father figure. I believe that in a family dynamic, it is up to the individual parent to embrace their natural skills and rear the children based on their instinctual views of how they see the world. <br /><br />This is a beautiful post- power to the Fathers of this world! Louise Trainorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03429074398705943398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302245627574027504.post-58698240539733001912016-10-05T11:34:26.101-07:002016-10-05T11:34:26.101-07:00"However, I believe single fathers can be par..."However, I believe single fathers can be part of feminism when they teach their daughters or sons that a man can do as much as a woman when it comes to taking care of the family and home, and thus should be expected to do so." <br /> <br />I think this is such an important quote from your post. It might have been unconscious, but you're use of "can" really highlights a respect of what has been considered "women's work." Valuing child-rearing and housework makes them desirable skills, and classifying them as desirable seems to me a much better plan than depicting them as grunt work that men should have to participate in as well. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642114253125714282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302245627574027504.post-13956321844645262932016-10-03T23:56:42.249-07:002016-10-03T23:56:42.249-07:00Joan,
This is such an amazing tribute to someone...Joan, <br /><br />This is such an amazing tribute to someone who seems like a very incredible person. <br /><br />I can really relate to the many ways in which you didn't see the stereotypes associated with the traits of men vs women. While I was fortunate enough to grow up in a home where both my parents raised us, I also experienced a very obvious share in parental duties regardless of their societal associations. For example, my dad adores cooking and baking and my mom has worked as a full-time physiotherapist for the majority of my life. <br /><br />I believe that a lot of this is due to the circumstances in which I grew up; with two career-driven parents who very equally shared all aspects and responsibilities associated with parenting. It is this influence that really showed me the ability of fathers to take over various roles that would traditionally be expected of the mother. It makes me wonder if maybe it is the willingness of the parents to take on some of these roles that ultimately decides whether or not they are shared. Maybe the opinion of society matters less than the desires and readiness of couples to split the responsibilities. <br />Julie Maguirehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13944909324693483931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302245627574027504.post-34341839122352013312016-09-29T18:32:32.078-07:002016-09-29T18:32:32.078-07:00Joan,
This is such a beautiful, heartfelt, and IM...Joan,<br /><br />This is such a beautiful, heartfelt, and IMPORTANT blog post. Your father is an incredibly inspiring person. While I'm always inspired by stories of single parents, your dad is exceptional. He overcame adversity, culture shock, his certain sadness, and simultaneously tackled traditional gender roles. I think he is an incredible example for other men. While I do not wish his circumstances on anyone, I wish there were more men like him in the world. <br /><br />I also see his influence on you in the ways you described: you are empowered and equilateral in your approach to the world almost without thinking about it and that is something for any woman to aspire to. It is a bit more effortless for you to approach the world this way because you had an innovative role model. Perhaps your role model wasn't an intentional feminist, but he raised an empowered woman and did not shirk duties that might commonly be seen as not suiting his gender. <br /><br />Your father was, perhaps a coincidental, unconscious feminist, but he produced an incredibly conscious one. My thanks go out to him and men like him!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03192921782376440109noreply@blogger.com